Have you ever wondered why
some things get worse before they get better?
Take, for example, deciding you’re going to start working on that problematic behavior like anger, and just when you commit to change, you notice that every little thing seems to make you mad. Although this isn’t a steadfast rule, it does happen to a lot of people a lot of the time.
As with many things in life, when we decide that we want to work on our hearts, especially with God to bring genuine heart change, we undergo a series of challenges.
The first challenge involves admitting to ourselves that we have a problem. We often don’t like to acknowledge our flaws, and we sure don’t like changing them. Sometimes our behaviors can take a toll on our lives and leave us facing the fact that that we must change. To do so, we must take a good, hard look at who we are and what we need to do differently. This reflective experience is also known as self-awareness.
Self-awareness requires us to humble ourselves before others and God. As one could imagine, this is an experience that can set off a tidal wave of emotions, including anger and pain. Some aren’t ready to make a change and will run from the reflection. Sometimes it’s easier to live in denial than to accept our issues. I can’t even begin to count the times I have heard someone tell me they don’t have a problem… someone else does.
Others, however, will uncover their eyes and truly see themselves, imperfections and all. Once we are aware of the problem, we can move to the next leg of the journey: change. Change is the working stage of the process. It involves humility and attentiveness. It involves taking responsibility for what we have done to hurt others with our behaviors. It involves allowing God access to our brokenness.
By no means is change easy, but it shows our commitment to genuine transformation. When all is said and done, we can take what we learned about ourselves (self-awareness), along with the changes we’ve made, and begin to be transformed from the inside out
Sometimes things get worse before they get better.
Hebrews 12:11 CEV
“It is never fun to be corrected. In fact, at the time it is always painful. But if we learn to obey by being corrected, we will do right and live at peace.”