“I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
– Thomas Edison
Thomas Edison famously failed over 10,000 times before he was able to successfully invent a light bulb. He welcomed this failure with joy, because he knew that the knowledge of what didn’t work would only bring him closer to finding a way it did.
So why is it, then, that we expect to become successful overnight?
Society glorifies success but rarely mentions the amount of blood, sweat and tears that go into it. All men and women of greatness have had to work hard, deal with setbacks and failures. Ignoring the hard work leads people to be fearful of failure, sometimes quitting before they have begun.
We shouldn’t let our failures hold us back; instead we should reframe our failures to become fuel until we hit our own goals. Here are the a few ways you can turn your failures into positives.
Expect It and Reframe It
No matter who you are, failure is bound to happen at some point in your life. Even though we may try our best, it doesn’t always equal out to success. Failure is an essential element in order to move forward and closer to your goals. Don’t be cautious because you are afraid of failing. Embrace something new! Trust God not merely yourself. Be bold and adventurous as you try and accomplish something outside of your comfort zone. It’s okay to fail and it only means that you are growing as a person. Think of failure as experimentation on the path to success. Fear is not a component.
How Are You Responsible for it?
In every failure there is a lesson to be learned about you. What was your role in this failure? Take a huge step back and ask yourself some tough questions. Were you present in the moment? Did you not give it your all? Were you waiting for someone else to take initiative? How could you have contributed more? By analyzing how your actions affected the outcome, you will be in a better position to achieve success. You must be willing to call yourself out when you are at fault. The most important part of this step is being honest and open.
Find the Lesson
Failures are lessons just waiting to be understood. When something goes wrong, simply ask yourself what you can learn from it. Taking time to reflect on your failures will help you move forward and also lessen your chances of repeating the same mistake. The lesson might not always be presented to you right away. It may take time to fully grasp and understand how you can apply this lesson the next time you’re in a similar situation. It’s important to say in a learning mindset, though, so that frustration stays to a minimum. Try and take a step back and look at the bigger picture until you feel you have more knowledge from your failure.
Add Fuel to the Flame
Setbacks can be turned into motivation and be your driving force in moving closer to what will work in your life. Don’t be afraid to try a different route or put more of yourself into it. While you might be frustrated, use that as motivation to show up fully and commit to your goals. By being your best you will be able to be more successful. Take your negative emotions and turn them into something good! By adding “fuel to the flame” you will have directed your energy towards something positive. Remember to smile and have fun with each task you take on, even if you think it will result in a failure.
“In Him all our failures, need not be defeats.” – John Michael Talbot