We’re taught to feel and accept our emotions, but what about when your emotions actually become an addiction?
Many people allow themselves to “feel” emotions repetitively. Most of them subconsciously set up situations where they experience them even though they would say that they want to change.
Few people understand the workings of human emotion.
Emotions begin with a thought. We have too many thoughts in a day to even count, most of these thoughts are habitual. We have them day after day, and because we have not created a separation from thoughts, we assign a meaning to those thoughts assuming that they’re true. Without the discipline of taking our thoughts captive, you will be a pawn to you your thoughts, feelings and emotions.
It’s the assigned meaning of thoughts that form our emotions. When we feel this emotion, and give credence to the emotion because we have always believed what it’s telling us, there is a reaction in the brain that signals a green light to that feeling or emotion.
Feeling and reacting habitually strengthens neural pathways which may make us subconsciously seek the same emotion.
An emotional addiction is when the body becomes dependent on our own chemical responses. This cycle changes the reward center of the brain. Even if the emotion makes us miserable, the rush of neurotransmitters are a reward.
Temperament examples might be; Sanguines that seek reminiscent pleasures even if they are toxic, or unhealthy. Supines receive messages that they are not accepted and victims, and become volunteer victims. Melancholies might believe they are incompetent over a long period of time.
Addiction usually means being addicted to an external substance or behavior (like food addition or sex addition) but its also possible to be addicted to our own repetitive thought processes.
Most people who struggle with any kind of addiction are aware at least on some level of the issues their addiction is causing them. Emotional addiction is different because we’re living and breathing the emotional experience so closely, it literally is beyond our scope of awareness.
In order to break emotional addiction you have to become conscious to your own patterns.
In order to do this, there has to be something that will offset the “lying” or erroneous thought or emotion. For example; if we have a thought that says I can’t do something and disqualify ourselves, because we have always done so, and even if history backs that feeling up, there is a scripture that tells us that “we can do all things through Him who strengthens us.”
If God says I can do it as I trust in Him, then it repudiates the lie I am believing. If I begin to believe and act upon this Truth, I will be free to do things that I previously disqualified myself in. ( I personally did this for years and years before coming to the knowledge of the truth).
Then we can be “transformed by the renewing of our minds.” If we continue believing lies, we may never discover our purpose, find peace, contentment, or discover our genuine selves.