You will notice all of the above points are reflective of discomfort one way or the other. Growth, maturing, broadening your scope in life in any way, does not come from dwelling in your comfort zone(s). ( Plural… in our world today, we have cultivated multiple areas of comfort to help us cope and hope to a greater and increasing degree.)
Yes its true. We basically don’t want discomfort, pain, vulnerability, accountability, or all the ingredients of a full and genuine life. We want to avoid these things and get to the “next step”, the next place in “moving forward”. In terms of young people, many today that might be termed melennials, are actually a reincarnation of the 80’s YUPPIES; Young Urban Professionals, or Young Upwardly Mobile Professionals.
In any case, it indicates a person with a desire to be someplace in life on the fastest track possible. I do believe that the explosion of technology especially in the 90’s and 2000’s has contributed to this accelerated view of life. Along with it comes the epitome of these phenomenons; entitlement, and the basic millennial “agenda.”
A story in Time magazine said polls show that melennials want flexible work hours, more ‘me time‘ on the job, and nearly nonstop feedback and career advice from managers. In another Time story in May 2013, titled “The Me Me Me Generation,” begins: “They’re narcissistic. They’re lazy. They’re coddled. They’re even a bit delusional.” Those aren’t just unfounded negative stereotypes about 80 million Americans born roughly between 1980 and 2000. They’re backed up by a decade of sociological research.” The article also points out that Millennials may be simply adapting quickly to a world undergoing rapid technological change.
This lends itself to always looking for a self oriented fast track to “success” at the cost of deep genuine relationships as we are always “moving ahead” and trying to “get ahead” to a place where I simply won’t have to work too hard at some future point. What matters most is “getting there”. This is one of the biggest contributing factors when we work with people. In their quest to get ahead, they unwittingly leave “themselves” and others behind. Values, authenticity, virtues, faith, etc., are foreign to many. When their relationships don’t work they just want to “fix” them and “get on with it”, or just move on to another one. My answer to that is usually, “what exactly is it you think you are ‘getting on with’?
But… “no matter where you go, there you are”. When tough stuff comes up, don’t try and circumvent it and “fix” it as soon as possible. Deal with the underlying issues and embrace the difficulty and let the pain bring the genuine gain you need to grow. Allow yourself to enter into a process that will allow you to truly become who you are and discover your purpose, and begin to walk in it the way God intended!