Self Care

So many of us are “all over the place.” We don’t know how to take care of ourselves. The tail is wagging the dog, we are spinning plates, running ourselves ragged, chasing what? More money, success, power, what?

Most of the people I encounter burn the candle at both ends, their priorities are way out of order, they don’t make time for the most important things in their lives. And, in many cases do not even know what their priorities are. They are tunnel visioned in one area or another… money being the most prevalent. Over time, the pursuit of money and success take over any normal type of life.

So should we not pursue success, money, a better life? That isn’t the problem. It’s when the pursuit takes you over. That is where we can go wrong. I literally work with couple after couple that find it nearly impossible to not “find”, but “make” the time to get together for a half an hour to just be together, read a book together, cultivate emotional intimacy.

Then, they act like victims of some kind, like “we just can’t find the time”, “something always “comes up”. As if there were absolutely no choice. They don’t realize that they are choosing not to make the time, by choosing to prioritize other things. This can happen and does happen in many areas of life.

But we can choose life… we can choose to do the things that count the most. Interestingly, in the Bible it says, “I hold before you, life and death, therefore, choose life.” It always struck me, that we are so bent on choosing the things that don’t bring real life, that bring relational “death” to our relationships, familys, etc… that we actually have to be told to choose life!

Deuteronomy 30:15

“See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction … therefore choose life, so that you and your children may live.”


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