Holding Back

Sometimes we need to take stock of where we are at in life. Sometimes we have to ask why we’re not where we want to be. Why we’re not where we should be.

For me, I’ve found when I’m not where I should, or want to be, it’s usually because I’m holding myself back by telling myself one or more of these lies.

Lie #1: I’m too important. (AKA – Pride)

When we think of ourselves as important – or rather, self-important – we lose touch with reality. We never feel compelled to get out of our comfort zone. We don’t see things as other people see them. We can’t relate.

Feeling important makes doing the hard stuff, beneath you. It makes the people who report to you, below you. It makes setbacks and failures beyond you, and thus you never try.

Instead of being important, focus on doing something important, other people and helping them prosper.

Lie #2: I can’t.

Everyone worries that they can’t.

The reality is, until it’s been done for the first time, no one can. Or at least, no one has. Not yet, anyway.

But someone will do it. Why not you? Forget about why you can’t, and just try. Melancholies will hold back because they don’t want to look foolish if they fail.

Lie #3: It won’t work.

Maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. But how will you know if you don’t at least try?

Because the future is not set, you have a fifty-fifty chance in everything you do. Your future is what you make of it.

One thing’s for certain: If you don’t try, it definitely won’t work. Going back and forth and back and forth is a hindrance. Do your homework, count the cost, be accountable. It will make risking less of a risk

Lie #4: I’m not…

Fill in the blank here.

I’m not good enough. I’m not smart enough. I’m not talented enough. I’m not connected enough.

With enough effort, you can be whatever it is that you need to be. You have the ability to set the direction of your own life.

You have no limitations of what you are, other than what you tell yourself you’re not. As you think and believe in your heart, so you will be. God has a plan for your life… get in on it. He knows the plans He has for you even if you don’t.

Lie #5: Because.

Because you don’t want to? Because it’s too hard? Because you’ve given up?

Because is being lazy. Because is throwing in the towel before trying every possible angle and approach. “Because” is nothing more than a scapegoat. We can justify anything. Many times we are not afraid of failing, but succeeding. If we succeed it is going to require more from us. This is actually bad news for the Phlegmatic!

It’s easy to get caught up in our own heads. It’s easy to look around for reasons why we can’t get where we want to be. Just realize that the biggest reasons are often the lies that we tell ourselves. But it’s the truth that makes us free. Free to what? Free to be all we are created to be.


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