You will have to be brutally honest with yourself. It sounds simplistic and elementary…. yes… no. What’s the problem?
There are several things that will actually get in the way of you telling your truth.
- Saving Face
- Lack of Integrity
- Lack of Moral Compass
- False Self
- Self preservation
- Cover up
If you go over this list honestly, I am quite sure you will be reminded of how in certain situations in your life, you may not be 100% honest and truthful. But why does that matter?
It matters because only Truth will make you free. That means the more you “operate” in lies, (even white ones, maybe especially white ones because we excuse them), you are not free. You are not genuine, vulnerable, trustworthy, and lack integrity. This does not indicate or implicate “perfection”. It does however implicate being free. What does that mean??
Free to be yourself, no need to cover anything up, embellish, blame shift, justify, be wrong, make mistakes, be genuine, free to BE… knowing who you are, what you are about, what you believe, unapologetically.
I was told by a pastor friend of mine once that I was above reproach. In made me weep. After coming from a background of lying, covering up, diluting truth, and all of the list above and more, to a place of such conviction and transformation that God did in my life, that I was KNOWN as a man of character and integrity to the degree that he knew I could be trusted to ALWAYS tell the truth. Trustworthy. A man of character.
Again, this does not indicate perfection, but trustworthiness, integrity. I am so grateful to be the man that God has transformed me into.
“To feel safe is to stop living in my head and sink down into my heart and feel liked and accepted … not having to hide anymore and distract myself with books, television, movies, ice cream, shallow conversation … staying in the present moment and not escaping into the past or projecting into the future, alert and attentive to the now …feeling relaxed and not nervous or jittery … no need to impress or dazzle others or draw attention to myself. … Unself-conscious, a new way of being with myself, a new way of being in the world … calm, unafraid, no anxiety about what’s going to happen next …loved and valued… just being together as an end in itself.”
― Brennan Manning, Abba’s Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging
BH/ Brennan Manning