What’s Holding You Back?


Do you feel like something is holding you back from moving forward in life, but you don’t know what it is?

You are not alone. Everyone gets stuck in a rut at some point in their lives. Even the most successful people in the world feel unmotivated and confused, from time to time. There are times in life when the thing that we want most may seem so out of our reach, that no matter what we do, we just can’t seem to grasp it.

In this place of doubt and frustration, it’s easy to give up, but the worst thing that you can do is sit on the sidelines. Change is a normal part of life. Life throws us a lot of curve balls, but it is our job to swing, no matter how many times we miss. If you want to be successful, you need to create a solid game plan. In the words of Babe Ruth, “Never allow the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game!” 

Before you can get unstuck, you need to understand what is holding you back from living your purpose. You don’t need to spend one more day going in circles.

What Is Holding You Back From Moving Forward In Your Life?

For many people, making choices in life that propel them forward can be difficult. Why? Because change is a hard concept to grasp. Sometimes it can feel way better to relax in a comfort zone than it can to dive into the unknown and swim in waters that you aren’t familiar with.

However, nothing ever grows in your comfort zone, so the only way of moving forward in life is to get out of your head and embrace your fears. Indecision is an overwhelming place to be. Why torture yourself? When we are faced with many decisions it can be easy to feel paralyzed by fear, but the wrong decision is better than no decision at all.

Sometimes life gives us a wake-up call, (Like a pandemic), with the purpose of lighting a fire under us so that we will take action. The harsh reality is that the only thing holding any of us back from moving forward in life is ourselves.

1. Expecting Things To Come Easy 

Goals don’t exist to be easy. Anything of value requires hard work, dedication, sacrifice, and discipline. If you are waiting for success to magically show up, think again. How can you possibly know what your limits are if you never take the chance to test them?

2. Living In The Past

If you live based on “would’s, could’s, and should’s”, you won’t be moving forward in life. Regret is an ugly beast. You can’t go back and change the past, so why bother continuing to live there?

If you live in the past, you will fail to see all of the amazing opportunities that are presenting themselves to you. If you dwell on “what was” you will never be able to envision “what could be.” Often times we are our own worst enemies. When we make mistakes, sometimes we carry them with us and end up staying chained to them.

We shame ourselves when really, we should be rewarding ourselves. Why? Because mistakes prove that we are trying. Messing up in life is all part of the learning process. When you embrace your setbacks in life, you will have a greater appreciation for your bounce-backs.

3. Waiting For The Perfect Moment

In a constantly changing world, you can’t rely on the perfect moment. If opportunities present themselves, you need to take advantage of them, or else they will pass you by.

How many of you have put something on hold because it didn’t feel like “the right time?” In our never-ending cycle of desire to reach “the perfect moment”, (a manifestation of destination orientation”),we get trapped in a bubble of indecision, leaving us feeling defeated and overwhelmed. In this place, we can’t take any action. When it comes to your goals and dreams, there is no perfect time to achieve them.

The greatest success stories didn’t start with the perfect moment. Rather, they started because someone seized an average moment and transformed it into an epic outcome; with hard work, grit, and an unwavering faith in God’s purpose for their lives. Be present, in the here and now. Moving forward in life requires that you choose life today, because tomorrow provides no guarantees.

4. Doubting Your Value

Whatever your goal or dream is in life, if you don’t believe that you are worthy of achieving it, you won’t. It’s as simple as that. As a man thinks in his heart so he is. The reason why so many people never end up fulfilling their potential in life is that they lack Godfidence. If you’ve struggled with confidence in the past, now is the time to build it back up!

Don’t let conditioned beliefs and false judgments dim your light and tell you that you aren’t good enough. If you want to step into your strengths, commit to moving forward embracing your weaknesses. God has a plan for you!

5. Playing The Victim

If you don’t take responsibility for your life, and instead choose to play the victim, moving forward in life is not an option. The victim mentality serves no one. In this headspace, people blame the world and others for their problems and feel sorry for themselves.

Research studying the psychology of victimhood suggests that individuals with a victim mentality have difficulty expressing and processing negative emotions; such as anger, fear, and disappointment; as well as difficulty with taking responsibility for their desires and actions.

Changing your story is the first step to taking responsibility for your choices in life. This starts with tapping into the underlying source of your victimhood. When you do the work to figure out where your learned helplessness first manifested itself, you will feel empowered to make a change. When you shift your mentality from that of victim to victor, you will start walking in your purpose.

6. Staying In Your Comfort Zone

A lot of people like to stay in their comfort zone. Why not? It seems to be a stable, safe place to hang out. A comfort zone appears to be a beautiful and safe place, but nothing ever grows there because it exists in your self-protective shell..

By nature, humans consider a change of any kind to be negative. Predictability feels good. However, if you stay in a place where nothing changes, you won’t change either, which is why moving forward in life requires that you step outside of your comfort zone. If nothing changes, nothing changes.

When you find your zone of discomfort, your confidence expands and a world of possibilities start to open up for you. If you are someone that struggles with the unknown make small changes at first, until you are able to step further outside of your comfort zone.

7. Refusing To Commit To Personal Growth 

It doesn’t matter what industry you are in. The fact of the matter is that if you aren’t going forward, you’re going backwards.. Life moves so fast. If you aren’t moving with it, you are going to get left behind. .

Keep in mind that personal growth isn’t something that happens overnight. Rather, it’s a process. In reality, we never stop growing. There is no endpoint. The moment we appreciate the fact that the journey towards discovering and moving in our purpose, is part of the purpose, is the moment at which our personal growth becomes a rewarding experience.

Learn how to embrace a love for learning. A growth mindset is what helps you achieve your goals and create a life filled with opportunities. In the words of Eric Butterworth, “Don’t go through life; grow through life.”

If you aren’t moving forward, you are moving backwards.

Moving forward is a choice. Make decisions that will propel you forward, no matter how many obstacles life throws at you. If you take the time to consciously start shifting these behaviors and adopting new habits that serve your higher self, you will transform your life.

Jeremiah 29:11 The Message :

“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.”

BH/ Life Mastery Adapted

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