Perhaps, one of the hardest things to recognize in ourselves is our pride. Pride can lead us to be only concerned with ourselves, seek recognition to exalt ourselves, and speak constantly without listening. You might as well have seen many arrogant people around you. They are always preoccupied with their ego, and probably, you’re struggling with the same thing on some level.
Many people don’t realize what awaits them, if they just let go of these attitude and move forward. Instead of looking at yourself as “wise in your own eyes”, let yourself be humble and willing to learn from other people.
Thus, if you are struggling with pride and arrogance, here are 10 tips that might help you deal with your own pride and overcome that irksome quality of being an arrogant.
1. Identify the cause of your pride.
Pride is an attitude displayed by various characteristics, like independence, arrogance and high mindedness. A prideful person is an arrogant person, who feels superior over the other person. There are questions you may ask to yourself in order to identify the cause of your pride like “How often do I admit I was wrong?”, ” Why do I want others to see or hear me?”, or “Why do I have to talk about myself and my opinions so much to other people?”.
2. Analyze and compare your pride to reality.
You could just rationalize and justify your prideful thoughts. Sometimes, you just have to shut up, swallow your pride and accept that you are wrong because it’s part of growing up. Try to compare your prideful thoughts to reality, and then balance things.
3. Seek feedback.
Seek feedback from people you trust, to make sure that you are doing right for other people. Accept criticism and learn from it. It is a common mistake doing everything on your own, you also need to seek feedback and use it to become more aware. Ask them how your attitude is towards them, how they feel about you or what the things are they don’t like about you. Thus, at this point, you’ll know what and how to work on your negative attributes and weaknesses..
4. Share credit and build others up.
Recognize the contribution of other people, because once you build others up and share credit, it will cause others to want to work with you again. Lower your pride and seek help from others to get things done. True leaders are out to raise others up to be more than they could ever attain.
5. Admit your own mistakes.
This may be tough but if you want to overcome your pride and arrogance, you need to deal with it. By simply admitting your mistakes, it lowers your pride and you take responsibility for your failure. Remember that, you can learn from your mistakes if you are not denying them.
6. Be courteous to others.
One of the unattractive attributes of a person is being arrogant. The best way to deal with it, is not to frame yourself in terms of pride and humility. Let go of your arrogance and boastfulness. Learn to respect the opinion of other people and know how to accept criticism. People would assume you’re arrogant if you are rude to people. Just talk politely and be courteous to people around you because there’s no reason for you to act rude.
7. Forget the “I, me, myself”.
If you really want to overcome arrogance, be modest in your behavior. You will only look prideful if you praise yourself and boast about your achievements in life. Set aside the attitude of focusing on yourself. Don’t be egocentric , instead learn how to think of other people’s feelings and needs, not merely your own.
8. Be optimistic.
Your negative thoughts will lead you to negative behavior. But if you turn all those negative thoughts to positive ones, it will eventually lead you to a positive approach and this will also help you overcome your arrogance and overflowing pride. Optimistic people tend to anticipate the best possible outcome in any situation.
9. Be an active listener.
Instead of just thinking about yourself, try to listen to other people as well. Listening is one of the most important skills you can have. Listen, in order to understand and learn. Your ears were made for a purpose, so you better use them. Moreover, listening is a skill you can develop that demonstrates genuine care and concern.
10. Look at the examples of humble people.
We tend to look for other qualities in friends, however, it is better if you surround yourself with humble people. Find people who will influence you with good attitude rather than the opposite side of it. Staying humble means nothing will touch you, neither praise or disgrace you because you know who you are.
Dealing with arrogant people is indeed tough, because they do not budge easily, however, there are still ways to overcome that kind of attitude. No matter how educated, rich or talented you are, how you treat other people is everything. If you your pride is bigger than your heart and ego is bigger than your head, better think now on how to change it or you will can alone for the rest of your life. Remember that it is your pride and arrogance that can prevent you from becoming the “real you.”.
God gives grace to the humble, but resists the proud.