If you know temperament at all, you know that an article on “strengths and weaknesses” in terms of temperament, would need to be broken down by temperaments themselves, and then temperament blends that further compound the study.
So for this article I will try and keep it simple, and in subsequent posts, will break down some of these temperaments so that we can understand them, and relate to them in our own lives.
We usually state that there are no “good” or “bad” temperaments, that it is a matter of strengths and weaknesses; or, how we are functioning in our temperament spectrums in life situations. We will have a propensity to function either in a strength or weakness. Then, through the understanding of our temperaments, and understand the propensities in the negative or positive ends of the spectrum, we can then exercise choice in a given circumstance as to whether I “respond” in a positive way that brings a more desirable result, or a weakness, bringing a less desirable result.
For example, as a Melancholy compulsive, I have an inherent dry and wry sense of humor. I can also be insecure and think alot. If I am not knowing my true identity, my insecurity will be more predominant, and if I feel criticized or vulnerable, I may well use sarcasm in response as a deflective mechanism, and as a protective mechanism. If I am more secure, I will tend to operate more out of my strengths, and I can be witty, funny, cute, and quick humored, the strength end of the spectrum. The chart below demonstrates strengths and weakness in general, how we are acting out in both ends of the spectrum.
When your temperament is revealed to you, you will find it relatively easy to “see” how you are functioning in real time. You will find that your “reactions” are coming from your weakness area and “responses” to things happening are coming from the strength area. So, again for the melancholy, we have a tendency to be perfectionistic, which can make me rigid in a leadership position, being critical of those I lead. To operate more in the strength of that temperament, instead of merely criticizing someone, I can offer constructive criticism, help them learn how to accomplish a certain task, and then have confidence that because I trained them correctly, they will do a good job independently.
As a melancholy I want independence, and I want people to do a job right. My strengths have been incorporated and I have built someone else up, and then they are more likely to leave me alone! My needs then are met, and we are not even talking about knowing the temperament of the other person.
That’s for another discussion. More coming tomorrow!