The Phlegmatic Melancholy
This person expresses the temperament need like a Phlegmatic but they respond (wanted need) to the same need as a Melancholy. The Phlegmatic, combined with any other temperament, has a stabilizing effect on that temperament. Therefore, in this case, the Phlegmatic will alter the responsive need and give temperament traits of both of these temperaments.
When the temperament needs are expressed, they are expressed as a Phlegmatic; however, this person responds to the same needs as a Melancholy.
Inclusion: This person has the same social skills as the Phlegmatic, including a dry sense of humor. The Phlegmatic Melancholy can relate to people or tasks. When confronted by tasks or people, they will respond to tasks better than people. For all intents and purposes, on the surface, they will appear to be a Phlegmatic.
In social situations, they will be an observer of the people around them, not getting too involved. The Phlegmatic Melancholy operates at a slower pace than the Melancholy and is better suited to doing mundane jobs such as computer programming than the Melancholy.
Control: A Phlegmatic Melancholy in control only takes on decisions and responsibilities necessary to function on a day to day basis. They are constantly on guard against overworking themselves or using too much energy. They protect themselves by only taking on responsibilities and decisions needed to get through each day. The Phlegmatic does not express the need to be a leader nor does the Phlegmatic Melancholy. Leadership requires too much energy.
Under certain circumstances, the Phlegmatic Melancholy will be a leader like the Melancholy and take on the same amount of decisions and responsibilities; this will depend on the ability of the people around them who can inspire them.
Affection: The Phlegmatic Melancholy in affection use very little energy to establish and maintain a relationship and have a tendency to observe rather than get involved. When inspired by certain circumstances, they can become loyal friends with deep feelings.
The fear of rejection and a low self-esteem are greatly reduced. A biting sense of humor is their way of reducing the chance of rejection and a way of hiding their tender feelings. If hurt or rejected by a deep personal relationship, this same sense of humor gives them the perfect opportunity to get even.
The Melancholy Phlegmatic
The temperament strengths and weaknesses are the same as the Melancholy, but what has been tempered by this blending is how they respond to those strengths and weaknesses.
Inclusion: This person will express himself as a Melancholy and will respond as a Phlegmatic. This person will tend to be a great thinker but is stubborn in acting on what they are thinking. They approach very few people for an association, and respond by association with more people and want a moderate amount of association. This person relates to tasks better than people, but he will, under certain circumstances, relate to people.
A Melancholy Phlegmatic has the same fear of rejection as the Melancholy and tends to use their dry sense of humor to protect them from rejection.
The Melancholy Phlegmatic has the moodiness of the Melancholy, but because of the tempering effect of the Phlegmatic, these mood swings will not be as abrupt for as long a period of time. When presented with certain circumstances, this person will be as stubborn as the Phlegmatic.
Control: This person will take on responsibilities and make decisions very well in known areas and is highly independent. When forced to do things in unknown areas, they tend to procrastinate. This procrastination will appear to be stubbornness—the refusal to move.
If forced into making decisions or taking on responsibilities in unknown areas, they usually rebel (become angry). This anger is exhibited in the biting humor of the Phlegmatic and is meant to get the other person off of his case. A person with this type of temperament has the same fear of the unknown and protects himself from the unknown by the stubborn non-committal attitude of the Phlegmatic.
Affection: This person will show the need as a Melancholy and respond to the need of a Phlegmatic. They will show very little love and affection and will approach very few people for deep personal relationships. A person with this blending will have low self-esteem, fear of rejection, will be emotionally guarded and will possess the tender loyal feelings of the Melancholy.
When this person is approached with love and affection for a deep relationship, they will respond as a Phlegmatic. This person will be very careful not to over-extend themselves, both physically and emotionally, in a deep personal relationship and will not even attempt to show those deep feelings.
The dry sense of humor they are capable of showing is a protection mechanism to hide their deep feelings and also gives them the perfect opportunity to get even if they have been hurt or rejected.
If the Melancholy Phlegmatic is pushed into changing behaviors towards a person with whom they have a deep relationship, they can become stubborn and rigid. It is hard for them to admit or reveal their deep feelings.
The Phlegmatic Supine
These persons express as a Phlegmatic and respond to the same need as a Supine.
Inclusion: This person, to all who observe them in social situations, will appear to be a Phlegmatic. They will be more personable than the normal Supine and slightly more direct in expressing their need. This ability to socialize will help them to meet their high needs for an association.
When approached for socialization and association, this person will respond with the intense need to belong that is normal for the Supine. This type of temperament is extremely slow-paced and appears to be task oriented. In reality, they are always looking for socialization. They do not appear to be extrovert, but under the right circumstances, will respond as an extrovert.
Control: This person, while making decisions and taking on responsibilities, will express as a Phlegmatic and respond as a Supine. The Phlegmatic expresses himself by only taking on responsibilities and making decisions needed to get through the day. He will usually be on guard against taking on too much or doing things for a long period of time.
Under certain circumstances, when approached, this person will respond as a Supine. Since the Supine is basically a dependent temperament, when this person is forced to make decisions or take on responsibilities above and beyond those to get through normal life, he can become dependent on another person to share added responsibilities and decisions.
Within certain environments, they will be stubbornly independent. However, when given a change of environment, this person will be extremely dependent. When it comes to making decisions and taking on responsibilities, they will need someone, not only to share successes but to share failures and criticisms.
Affection: This person will express himself in a non-committal, stand-off-like manner. They expend very little energy in establishing or maintaining a relationship, leaving the burden up to the other person who is involved. Once the environment is correct, this temperament will respond as a Supine, needing a great deal of time, attention, love, and affection.
They are completely dependent on other people to make them feel loved. They also possess the ability to serve deep, personal relationships, if they receive recognition for that service.
The one strength the Phlegmatic Supine possesses over the other temperaments is that they are more direct in expressing their needs, therefore are more likely to have such needs met than the normal Supine temperament.
The Supine Phlegmatic
The Supine Phlegmatic expresses themselves as a Supine but responds with the needs of a Phlegmatic. The unique behaviors of the temperament will present themselves when this blending is present in any of the three temperament needs.
Inclusion: This person appears to be backward and shy, but, they actually like to be included and would like to be approached. Their behavior is indirect and they expect people to know what they want regarding socialization.
When approached for socialization, this person does not need socialization for long periods of time and does not need many people with whom to associate. The Supine has a high fear of rejection, but the Phlegmatic blending of this temperament stabilizes this fear. The Supine Phlegmatic can “roll with the punches,” tolerating not being accepted and even being rejected. When they are approached by this type of person, their sense of humor protects them from these people.
Control: This person, when forced to make decisions and take on responsibilities, is extremely dependent and weak-willed, unable to handle these decisions and responsibilities without other people.
The Phlegmatic stabilizes this dependency. They do not need someone to share these responsibilities and decisions, but they do need the thoughts and opinions of other people before they will take on responsibilities. This person is extremely weak-willed and does not possess the determination to go against popular opinion. They are constantly searching for reaffirmation that what they are doing is right.
The Supine has extremely high needs to be met for control and to be taken protected. The Supine Phlegmatic only needs a moderate amount of protection and control. The feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy are greatly reduced. If someone tries to control them too much, this person will stubbornly dig in their heels, refusing to let them have too much control.
Affection: This person expresses the need of a Supine and responds as a Phlegmatic. He is shy and backward, not appearing to want a deep relationship; however, in reality, they are hoping others will approach them for deep relationships and will show them the love and affection they need.
Unlike the Supine, the Supine Phlegmatic does not have the high fear of rejection and is very capable of dealing with rejection and hostile people with their non-committal sense of humor. Once a deep relationship has been established, this temperament can be quite serviceable. And, because of the stabilizing effect of the Phlegmatic, they will not require as much recognition for service rendered.
These are only a few examples of many temperament blend possibilities. One thing these examples point out, is the difference of the difference of the same two temperaments in the Expressed and Wanted areas. ie. Phlegmatic/Melancholy and Melancholy/Phlegmatic. You might think they are the same because it’s the same two temperaments. But the position of the temperament changes everything, as you see in the above examples.
Do not self-test, or diagnose. It is extremely beneficial to your EIQ to know and understand your temperament, but it will not truly benefit you if you self diagnose. Seek out a certified professional to administer your test.
BH/Excerpted from an article by Gambleweb.