We don’t always categorize the kinds of “secrets” we will be talking about today, as the traditional kind of “secrets” that we might be accustomed to. Meaning, it’s not like someone told me a secret to keep about someone or something. Rather, it’s about the hiding, covering up, pretending, insecurities and fears that keep us from being authentic: AKA… living a lie.
We can make plenty of justifications for why we hide the truth of our lives in a thousand ways from other. We fear rejections, don’t want to fail, look incompetent, unable… not good enough.
So we hide behind our false selves. I remember earlier on in my life, when I lied and covered up so much, I literally believed a lot of the lies I told other people. In fact, I remember when I started to come out of that way of living, I likened myself as someone who was walking with a cardboard full size cut out in front of me who was FINE, holding the cutout in front of mysef with the handles on the back.
The False Self. Not knowing who I was, Who’s I was, my value, true identity, I became an expert at being a “Poser, Faker and Wannabe.” (Manning) I pretended, lied, embellished, fabricated, covered up, excused, blamed, hid, baited and switched, deflected, you name it. Looking back I don’t even know how I pulled off the lies and stunts I told. I was an ego-manic with an inferiority complex. It’s difficult after a while to keep track of all the lies you tell. You have to keep track of them to make sure they keep covering up the previous ones.
In our attempt to be accepted we actually alienate ourselves from others. Why? Because we are false and not genuine. Therefore, we do not have the ability to honestly connect with another human being, or even God.
It’s time to come out of hiding, lying and covering up the you that you believe is unacceptable on some level. Stop pretending, and realize that God created you with purpose; your first purpose is to know and accept yourself that way God made you. Then you can “become” perpetually who He created you to be, and discover your why and your purpose as you grow.
To do this will require a degree of humility and honesty. It will be very humbling to admit what we have done. But you can’t effectively counsel a lie. You can’t be healed if you keep pretending you’re not sick.
You are meant to be free to “be”. Reach out for help today.