We can’t control the world around us, we can only choose our response to our world. This is a tremendously freeing position, liberating in fact. As long as I determine to control the uncontrollable situations in life, I will not only frustrate myself but rob myself of all joy and peace. But if I focus on God, the One who has ALL control, I can choose my response based on Faith in Him and His Ways.
Control the Uncontrollable?
In our world we have many uncontrollable realities. For many of us, 2020 has actually held records of uncontrollability. We have had one crisis after the next, all of which have enticed us towards fear or fury, fight or flight, sometimes both at the same time.
Many of us are those trying to control the uncontrollable. So if I am not supposed to control life’s circumstances, what am I asked to do? We learn that the Controller of ALL situations is trustworthy; having faith that He is working all things together for the good. My “job” is to love Him. I’m not called to control or force situations to conform to my will, I am called to love the One with ALL the power, and surrender my illusion of control to Him.
Entangling myself in situations out of my control is far too tempting. I can mount up on my opinions like a crusader in a split second. But God is asking me to yield, trust, and love. This doesn’t mean I squelch my heart and feelings. In fact, if you have noticed, most controllers control even their emotions to be hardened to them so they are not controlled by them, or their emotions are out of control. So by trusting, by surrendering control, it allows us to feel and express our emotions rationally while not being controlled by them.
Remember David’s phrase in Psalm 131, “I don’t concern myself with matters too great or too awesome for me to grasp”. Many things are far too great and awesome for us to stick our nose into. I need to know which things are mine to mess with.
We should be involved and aware for sure, but we do not have the burden to decide and manipulate many things ultimately. We need to know the difference between control and responsibility. This is freeing! Our decisions and freedom comes out of self control, not control.
Adapted article by John Enslow/ Contributed by Damalie Namale