We live in a culture that barrages us with images of a life that all smart, attractive, successful, or otherwise good people are entitled to live. It’s a life of wealth, great sex, physical beauty, perfect careers, adoring relationships, great health, abundant comfort and lots of blissful photos online to prove it. Because of this, entitlement runs rampant.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having any or all of these things. The problem isn’t in the things, it’s in our sense that life, or someone, owes them to us and that there’s something wrong if we don’t have them all and just the way we want.
Life doesn’t owe anyone anything. Most adults, and the overwhelming majority of today’s children and teens, feel entitled to having everything they’re taught to want. As a result, when they have a bad experience, lose a person or possession they value, fail to get the award, gift, or position, or even just have to do something less than fun, they feel slighted—victimized by life. They compare themselves to others who haven’t had, or aren’t having, the same negative experiences (ignorant of the possibility that other’s experiences might be worse) and blame life for being so unfair with them. Because of this, anger and a poor-me pity-party ensues, and the structure for a miserable existence is reinforced. It repeats without end. As a result, the victim persona is strengthened and validated.
Life doesn’t owe you anything. It doesn’t owe you perfect or even good parents. Life doesn’t owe you health, happiness, abundance, success, comfort, or immunity from pain and problems. It doesn’t owe you a job, a house, a bed, or a single meal. No one owes you kindness, love, recognition, empathy, apologies, or understanding. You aren’t entitled to a single thing. Your family owes you nothing. Your government owes you nothing. No one owes you anything at all.
I know, it stings.
In all truth lies a treasure. The gift in acknowledging and accepting that life owes you nothing is that you realize that every single thing you have is a blessing. Life owes you nothing, and yet look at all you’ve been given. Blessings rain upon you at every moment.
The bed you sleep in, the shoes you walk in, the spoon you eat from, the people/pets who adore you, the money you receive, the beauty you glimpse, the sweetness that sways your heart—all blessings.
Your life is overflowing with treasures. There is not enough time in a day to count them all, (but count at least 10 of them each day). Recognize the truth about your existence. Above all your cup is not 1/2 empty, it’s overflowing and you weren’t entitled to have anything inside of it.
Count it all joy and undeserved favor.
BH/ Adapted: “Cynthia”