How do you view people generally speaking? If you are a Melancholy, (like me), you might always be suspicious of people, even if you know them well… are they really my friend and ally, or are they really my enemy, not really looking out for me?
Check out this excerpt from the book of Galatians from the Message version of the Bible.
“It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community.”
When you become an “island”, your perspectives and perceptions can form a negative expectation of other people in life. The questions is… is this working for me and the people in my life? Most of the time of course, that answer will be no. We are built for “community”. We are a part of this thing called life, and have value, gifts, talents, etc. that are not just for me, but are to be expressed, shared, and to help others become who they are as well.
So when we are “islands” unto ourselves, we exempt ourselves and others from become our genuine selves, and knowing our foundational “why” and “purpose”.
Because our main purpose is to first “be and become” the authentic, genuine “me”. I cannot authentically do that is I am excluded and excluding others in my life. Many times because I have a victim mentality, or I simple disqualify myself by comparing myself with others, instead of identifying with them, and making them an “ally” in this journey of life.
Knowing your temperament, dealing with past trauma, and more, are all a part of knowing and becoming your genuine self. EIS is here to help.
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