Panic, sweating, racing thoughts, exhaustion, obsessive-compulsive behaviour, ruminating thoughts. Some of the painful, and exhausting symptoms of anxiety. In many cases, anxiety is accompanied by a strong inner-critic which places pressure on us to be perfect. It can also be accompanied by paranoia, depression and many other symptoms. If any of this rings a bell... Continue Reading →
I want to take some time to talk about trauma-informed leadership. If you have any experience leading or managing a team, you know the challenges that come with it. It can be thankless and frustrating work that calls for a tall order of resilience. You’ve got to inspire people, deal with toxic personalities, build team... Continue Reading →
The Toll of Complex Trauma This is for those of you who are caught in what seems like an endless cycle of starting something, seeing glimmers of success, and then, for some strange reason you cause yourself to fail. This is self-sabotage, a common cycle for those who suffer from Complex PTSD, and/or recovering from... Continue Reading →
These observations may be of some service in understanding and clarifying the erroneous notion that forgiveness should ever be equated with appeasement or confused with unearned trust. They are not only unequal, they are opposites. This is important on many levels. How we forgive as well as when and why we ought to offer forgiveness... Continue Reading →
The word ‘trauma’ is derived from the Greek term for ‘wound’. Very frightening or distressing events may result in a psychological wound or injury – and trauma in psychological terms in the emotional response to such an event. Traumatic events certainly include one-off events like natural disasters, terrorist attacks or acts of random violence. Some include exposure... Continue Reading →
The Crisis of Unwanted Sexual BehaviorThe statistics associated with unwanted sexual behavior inour world are staggering. The Society for the Advancement ofSexual Health conservatively estimates that between 3 percentand 5 percent of all Americans can be classified as addicted tosex. This represents an alarming nine to sixteen million people.Additionally, 64 percent of thirteen- to twenty-four-year-oldsintentionally... Continue Reading →
" The fear of human opinion disables; trusting in God protects you from that." - The Message Depending on your temperament particularly, you may have an inordinate "fear of man", or fear of human opinions. It can be disabling and debilitating. There are numerous reasons why we would care so much about others opinion of us and put more... Continue Reading →
Our early experiences with those closest to us shape how we understand the nature of relationships. Other abuses, neglect, abandonment issues will also affect current relationships. During these years, we develop our attachment style. Attachment style influences who we fall in love with, how we behave in romantic relationships, and even how the relationship ends. ... Continue Reading →
Jean Vanier in his book, "Community and Growth", he states; “Communities need tensions if they are to grow and deepen. Tensions come from conflicts within each person - conflicts born out of a refusal of personal and community growth, conflicts between individual egoisms, conflicts arising from a diminishing gratuite, from a class of temperaments and... Continue Reading →