Are You a Relationship Recycler?

Are you a relationship recycler? What do I mean? Simply put, so many of us do not deal with our underlying issues that keep us bound up, insecure, codependent, and broken - especially in relationships. I married my first wife after drinking all my adult life and after 2 years of sobriety. No real bearings... Continue Reading →

Toxic Soul Ties – Part 2

Over the years, the more I have worked in helping people, the more I see how toxic many of our relationship experiences are.  I have found that the majority of people I come across have had significant traumas regarding past relationship experiences. A large percentage have deep relationship pain. Some recognize it. Others haven’t made the... Continue Reading →

Toxic Soul Ties – Part 1 With Mark De Jesus

Healing from toxic relationships often involves working through the toxic soul ties that we have formed in our journey. I want to talk about the importance of your relationship ties and your history of attachments, connections and bonds. You were made for relationship and designed to be knit together with other relationships in powerful, healthy... Continue Reading →

Half Measures

This is a tried and true statement from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Mainly pointing to a half hearted recovery effort that doesn't usually bring to you a desirable result. Like half stopping drinking, half in half out. It doesn't give you "half sobriety", it brings you back out, usually, to using again. Why?... Continue Reading →

Compulsive Lying and Addiction

How Addictive Behavior Leads to Pathological Lying When you have an addictive behavior that is illegal or generally frowned upon by society like alcoholism, lying and deceit can become second nature. Addicted individuals don’t just lie to their loved ones; they also perpetually lie to themselves. Lying is actually such a common component of addictive behavior that... Continue Reading →

Pathological Lying

Pathological lying Pathological lying, also known as mythomania and pseudologia fantastica, is the chronic behavior of compulsive or habitual lying. Unlike telling the occasional white lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings or getting in trouble, a pathological liar seems to lie for no apparent reason. This can make it frustrating or hard to know what to... Continue Reading →

Addictions and Rational Thinking

Rational thought is an important attribute of a functioning human. It is our logic and reasoning that make us stand out from all of God's creation Sadly, addiction can inhibit rational thinking in very detrimental ways. Many people wonder why someone with an addiction can’t just stop drinking or doing drugs. It turns out that... Continue Reading →

Out of Your Hands

Meaghan If it’s out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind, too. Throughout my years in recovery, I’ve spent a lot of time learning how to let things go: the relationship that failed, the job I didn’t get, the money I blew on things I didn’t need; the pain, guilt, shame, worthlessness, and... Continue Reading →

Expectations II – Expectations vs. Hope

Perhaps you have heard the saying: "Expectations are premeditated resentments." I believe this slogan, which apparently originated in 12-step programs, contains some useful, practical information for all of us about the psychology of expectations. Its wisdom can be derived by acknowledging two psychological facts: First, merely expecting something to happen will not make it happen. Developmental psychologist... Continue Reading →

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