People often use a variety of terms for self-control, including discipline, determination, grit, willpower, and fortitude. Psychologists typically define self-control as: • The ability to control behaviors in order to avoid temptations and to achieve goals• The ability to delay gratification and resist unwanted behaviours or urges• A limited resource that can be depleted Interestingly,... Continue Reading →
Behavioral styles tell us that only about 18% of the population score high on the scale that favors assertiveness and dealing with things head on. These are people who thrive on conflict, will say what they think, don’t care who they offend (at times) and are bold in their approach. The remaining 82% of the population tends... Continue Reading →
How do we establish values? Where does it begin? Do we adopt them from an external source like a job, a social group, a church? Or do they realy come from within? I would suggest that it is both/and. Why? We may come into an environment where certain values are presented, or I may have... Continue Reading →
What are some ways we can "track" our movement in a process of recovery or change? One of the biggest pitfalls I see in people engaged in the process, is that they do not track their growth. They do not "forward journal", adding growth goals into the equation of seeing the areas of progress, and... Continue Reading →
10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step. In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break... Continue Reading →
Chatting with my friend Don today, he said this quote that he has used since high school. (He is in his 70's now... a retired pastor). "We don’t exercise integrity to get what we want; but to become who we were meant to be." Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather... Continue Reading →
A long time coming... The Process is indeed a proven strategy for creating emotionally healthy relationships. Virtually 30 years in the making and now, my follow up book is now under construction as well! "The Process: The First 40 Days-And Beyond. A daily reader/journal offering helping anybody begin the process in their own lives. For... Continue Reading →
Another nugget I picked up this week: "We're not into leadership 'acquisition', but leadership development." So many people want to just be leaders. They may think it's something you deserve, or that if I am around long enough I will just "become" one. Or, people may not see themselves as leaders at all and disqualify... Continue Reading →
In business, you will find times that you disagree with the decisions or recommendations that other hold. While you will never come off in a positive light if you adopt the disagree before knowing what they'll say tactic, it is possible and necessary to express disagreement from time-to-time. Doing it properly and professionally, however, is critical... Continue Reading →
The way to explain this is tostart in the middle and then describethe differences we see as we moveup and down from there. Later we’llprovide a little detail on each level.Let’s take a hypothetical person who iscentred at level 5 on this diagram (wewould say this person has an emotional health level of 5). This... Continue Reading →