Are You Ready for the LIVES?

EIS LIVE MONDAY'S AT 6PM EST! Get ready for EIS LIVE! We are in pre-production! Shooting for a launch in about 2 weeks, "EIS LIVE!" will be broadcast LIVE on Facebook at 6PM Monday evenings. This will be a live broadcast featuring interviews with professionals in the field of counseling, relationships, addiction, trauma and many... Continue Reading →

Abusive Relationships III

These of course are general and broad descriptions of forms of abuse. It gets deeper when you go deeper into the "techniques" and aspects of common forms of abuse. NarcissismVictimisationGaslightingEmotional Hostage TakingShamingNullificationDemoralizationDe-humanizationGuiltingCodependenceAnger/Rage The interesting thing about many of these tactics, is that they all have an element of Narcissism. It's all about the abuser. The... Continue Reading →

Abusive Relationships

For years I have worked with people in aggressive, passive aggressive, narcissistic and ultimately abusive relationships. Interestingly, I see more and more on Instagram, various therapists and individuals posting comments and quotes reflecting this reality. But when you work closely in a counseling relationship with people, you discover the depths of deep darkness that people... Continue Reading →

Acquiring Wisdom – Humility

Proverbs tells us: "Above all and before all, do this: Get Wisdom!    Write this at the top of your list: Get Understanding!" Proverbs 9:9 "Teach the wise, and they will become wiser. Instruct those who live right, and they will gain more knowledge." What's the key to acquiring wisdom? Humility. If I don't perceive that I... Continue Reading →

Victimism, Narcissism, and Entitlement

nar·cis·sist/ˈnärsəsəst/noun A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves."narcissists think the world revolves around them" Victim mentality: is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize or consider themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary... Continue Reading →

Paranoia vs. Peace

par·a·noi·a a mental condition characterized by delusions of persecution, unwarranted jealousy, or exaggerated self-importance, typically elaborated into an organized system. It may be an aspect of chronic personality disorder, of drug abuse, or of a serious condition such as schizophrenia in which the person loses touch with reality. The word paranoia for me, immediately brings... Continue Reading →


Dr. Nicole is absolutely right. Our world today is a quagmire of stress, fears, instability, division, unknowns, pandemics and more. In light of all this it's no wonder so many suffer from anxiety, depression, and many other forms of dysfunction and unhealthy patterns. But these elements alone should not hold us captive to those maladies.... Continue Reading →

Relationship Hostage Taking

Relationship or emotional hostage taking. I always use myself as an example where possible. Before I got my life right, meaning, stopped drinking and drugging and got right with God, I was an emotional basket case but acted like I wasn’t. I was broken, always angry, unable to take responsibility , insecure, deflecting, inauthentic and... Continue Reading →

The Self Sabotage Shame Cycle

The Toll of Complex Trauma This is for those of you who are caught in what seems like an endless cycle of starting something, seeing glimmers of success, and then, for some strange reason you cause yourself to fail. This is self-sabotage, a common cycle for those who suffer from Complex PTSD, and/or  recovering from... Continue Reading →

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