Counterdependency – With Bill Hoffman

In their book, "The Flight From Intimacy", Barry and Janae Weinhold expose the sibling of Codependency known as "Counterdependency" . What is it? Well... co-dependency indicates being  "dependent" on the behaviors and connection, be it ever so dysfunctional, to another human being. "Counter" dependency is basically the opposite. It is the posturing that I don't... Continue Reading →

What do You Think You Know? – With Bill Hoffman

Mark Twain left us an amazing quote: "It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble.  It's what you "know for sure", that just ain't so." Our observation concerning temperament is always a lighthearted way to encapsulate this: "Melancholies think they know everything; but Cholerics know they know everything." Of course, the reality... Continue Reading →

Brain Drain – With Bill Hoffman

My friend Jesse Barnett wrote a book called "Soul Crushers".  I featured him on one of our live broadcasts a while back. In his book he states; "What do you need to release to find freedom? ... You can learn to unpack your burdens one by one and find freedom." In similar fashion, brain drainers... Continue Reading →

Is it OK to Be Angry? – With Bill Hoffman

In the Bible we are told, "Be angry and do not sin."  This means don't allow your anger to spawn a choice that results in destructive behavior, essentially. "Acting aggressively isn’t mentioned anywhere in the definition of anger. That’s because anger is not a behavior; it’s not the same as hostility, violence, or aggression. Those... Continue Reading →

Anchored in Hope – Bill Hoffman

The storms of life are guaranteed.  You may not want to hear that, but it's true none-the-less. Hoping to have a life void of trials and challenges is irrational and not grounded in reality or truth. On the backside of this reality is, the "hope" that one day all the crazy stuff we have to... Continue Reading →

Narcissist Twists – With Bill Hoffman

A Narcissist Twist.  I have talked in previous posts about how temperament will affect how the narcissism is played out.  For example, if the person is a Choleric they may be a "classic" narcissist", meaning the controlling, arrogant, knows everything, more "malignant" type of narcissist. The "ego-maniac with the inferiority complex." Then there might be... Continue Reading →

Where Are You Going? – With Bill Hoffman

Where are you going in your life? What a loaded question... right?  But valid!  Many times we are kind of "floating", hoping for the best, coping with the rest, with no clear direction or pathway that we are following.  This of course speaks to the "why" and "purpose" issue that we talk about regularly... and... Continue Reading →

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