In their book, "The Flight From Intimacy", Barry and Janae Weinhold expose the sibling of Codependency known as "Counterdependency" . What is it? Well... co-dependency indicates being "dependent" on the behaviors and connection, be it ever so dysfunctional, to another human being. "Counter" dependency is basically the opposite. It is the posturing that I don't... Continue Reading →
There is an old Jackson Browne song called, "The Pretender". I thought about it this morning while reading "All is Grace" again, by Brennan Manning. His interpretation is "the imposter", or false self. In any case it refers to the tragedy of living out of a disingenuous place in life, indicative of not knowing ones... Continue Reading →
My friend Jesse Barnett wrote a book called "Soul Crushers". I featured him on one of our live broadcasts a while back. In his book he states; "What do you need to release to find freedom? ... You can learn to unpack your burdens one by one and find freedom." In similar fashion, brain drainers... Continue Reading →
In the Bible we are told, "Be angry and do not sin." This means don't allow your anger to spawn a choice that results in destructive behavior, essentially. "Acting aggressively isn’t mentioned anywhere in the definition of anger. That’s because anger is not a behavior; it’s not the same as hostility, violence, or aggression. Those... Continue Reading →
Where are you going in your life? What a loaded question... right? But valid! Many times we are kind of "floating", hoping for the best, coping with the rest, with no clear direction or pathway that we are following. This of course speaks to the "why" and "purpose" issue that we talk about regularly... and... Continue Reading →
How do you view people generally speaking? If you are a Melancholy, (like me), you might always be suspicious of people, even if you know them well... are they really my friend and ally, or are they really my enemy, not really looking out for me? Check out this excerpt from the book of Galatians... Continue Reading →
In a conversation the other day, someone said "we need to collect, and connect the dots." I had never heard it that way. I have always said we need to "connect" the dots in our lives, as in; my past, my temperament, my thoughts, etc. to help me take responsibility and understand why I do... Continue Reading →
In order to figure out what these things might be... you have to answer the question... "where do I want to go?" Do you want to "go" to a place of making healthy choices? To a place of things moving you forward in life and out of backwards movement cycles? If so, then you... Continue Reading →
In her song "Tell Me The Truth", by Steffany Gretzinger, she sings of the need to, and way to, tear down the walls that we think are protecting us, but that actually keep us bound to lies that keep is in "bondage" to those lies. "Tell me the truth Even if it hurts me, even... Continue Reading →
The past few years up until right now, our "personal world's", and our world have been shaken beyond what even seems possible. A pandemic, a largely divided nation on many fronts, even a threat of another world war, unthinkable in our generation, is now knocking at the door. I have noticed on several levels,... Continue Reading →
