Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say

Behavioral styles tell us that only about 18% of the population score high on the scale that favors assertiveness and dealing with things head on. These are people who thrive on conflict, will say what they think, don’t care who they offend (at times) and are bold in their approach. The remaining 82% of the population tends... Continue Reading →

Grieving – A Process

The 5 Stages of Grief & Loss - Grieving is a Process, not an Event. The 5 stages of grief and loss are: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them.... Continue Reading →

Limiting Beliefs

"As a Man Believes in his heart, so he is." "We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience." –Louise L. Hay Start unearthing your own... Continue Reading →

Work in Progress

WE ARE ALL WORKS IN PROCESS Committing fully to the step of taking our own thoughts captive means accepting, that the task of discovering who we really are, how we have been limiting ourselves, and how we can best learn and grow in our lives is an ongoing business, something that is never complete. We... Continue Reading →

Value and Values

How do we establish values? Where does it begin? Do we adopt them from an external source like a job, a social group, a church? Or do they realy come from within? I would suggest that it is both/and. Why? We may come into an environment where certain values are presented, or I may have... Continue Reading →

The Rest of Peace

Not "Rest IN Peace... The Rest OF Peace. What do I mean? God tells us the He offers the "peace of God that passes understanding". This implicates a deep peace that we cannot think our way into, conjure up on our own, or gain externally. No, peace, in God's economy is something that He offers... Continue Reading →

Milestones in Recovery

What are some ways we can "track" our movement in a process of recovery or change? One of the biggest pitfalls I see in people engaged in the process, is that they do not track their growth. They do not "forward journal", adding growth goals into the equation of seeing the areas of progress, and... Continue Reading →

Building Bridges

My friends Mike and Julie Signorelli coined a statement: "Build a bridge in relationships strong enough to bear the weight of truth." What does this mean? Basically it means that in order to have healthy relationships that are based in truth, where we can have crucial conversations, you have to invest in relationships to build... Continue Reading →

I Can, I Will, I Must: A Mantra

A mantra is a repeated statement to oneself that can basically help one to believe what we are saying to ourselves. It is not a magical incantation, and it is not a "formula" that will bring what I am focusing the mantra on to pass. Some eastern religions will define mantra differently, but conceptually, it... Continue Reading →

Reactive Vs. Proactive

In relationships, are you reactive, or proactive? What do we mean? Do you wait for things to break before doing something about what's actually already broken? That's the key right there. When things in relationships come to a head, and "break", the evidence inherently is that something was broken that ultimately presented itself. This means... Continue Reading →

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