Psalm 139:12 tells us: "Even the darkness hides nothing from You, but the night shines as the day; the darkness and the light are both alike to You." It's important to know that God is not hindered by our darkness. We may feel intimidated, shamed, fearful of the darkness that we perceive in our hearts,... Continue Reading →
It’s not nice to call names. But when it comes to narcissists, calling them out is really a matter of survival for those dealing with their abuse, as well as for those who don’t understand the profound harm they can do. All narcissists wear a mask, or false persona. And when you strip away the... Continue Reading →
EIS LIVE MONDAY'S AT 6PM EST! Get ready for EIS LIVE! We are in pre-production! Shooting for a launch in about 2 weeks, "EIS LIVE!" will be broadcast LIVE on Facebook at 6PM Monday evenings. This will be a live broadcast featuring interviews with professionals in the field of counseling, relationships, addiction, trauma and many... Continue Reading →
Many times in my work in counseling, I find people in abusive relationships that they had a vital part in creating. It always takes two, but many times the brokenness, or trauma in one person, coupled with temperament propensities, (a combination of areas of brokenness), create a "neediness" in a person to have someone to... Continue Reading →
These of course are general and broad descriptions of forms of abuse. It gets deeper when you go deeper into the "techniques" and aspects of common forms of abuse. NarcissismVictimisationGaslightingEmotional Hostage TakingShamingNullificationDemoralizationDe-humanizationGuiltingCodependenceAnger/Rage The interesting thing about many of these tactics, is that they all have an element of Narcissism. It's all about the abuser. The... Continue Reading →
nar·cis·sist/ˈnärsəsəst/noun A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves."narcissists think the world revolves around them" Victim mentality: is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize or consider themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary... Continue Reading →
We tend to hold standards up for ourselves and others. Largely depending on temperament, the high standards we may set, will be more towards ourselves, or others first and more severely. In the context of working with others, it's tricky sometimes to hold a high standard and give grace to others when they don't meet... Continue Reading →
How do we connect the dots from our reactions and responses to the things that happen in life, choices we make, how we function in life and relationships, our purpose and why? Well, in terms of the Process that we use to help, once someone comes for help in this type of discovery, we start... Continue Reading →
nar·cis·sist/ˈnärsəsəst/noun A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves."narcissists think the world revolves around them" Victim mentality: is an acquired personality trait in which a person tends to recognize or consider themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave as if this were the case in the face of contrary... Continue Reading →
Dr. Nicole gives us some examples of how we might says things in response to "triggers"... or, things that are said that are our "buttons" that get pushed when someone says something that we are sensitive to due to our brokenness. One of the by-products of reacting in these scenarios, is that we don't necessarily... Continue Reading →