One of the most powerful steps in "The Process", is journaling. As I stated a few days ago: "If you don't know what's broken in you, you can't be healed and you will keep searching for someone to "meet the needs of your trauma", instead of meeting your genuine needs... which it is possible to... Continue Reading →
One of the things I always tell people at the onset of counseling is that we will separate you and your significant other in counseling until each person has sufficiently been able to move into a place of taking responsibility for their own part in the breakdown of the relationship. Otherwise it is always something... Continue Reading →
You have heard the expression," the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results." Well, when you are emotionally stunted, or immature, you will likely cycle through poor, dysfunctional behavior patterns and never actually grow, mature or change. This can be due to a number of possibilities, including... Continue Reading →
That's right! The sequel to The Process is under way! We believe we have come up with a winning combination to help people to actually engage in the process, and have a companion book to do it with. "The Process - The First Forty Days and Beyond", is a combination of our Daily Challenge and... Continue Reading →
Dr. Nicole gives us some examples of how we might says things in response to "triggers"... or, things that are said that are our "buttons" that get pushed when someone says something that we are sensitive to due to our brokenness. One of the by-products of reacting in these scenarios, is that we don't necessarily... Continue Reading →
I thought I would add a little levity with the above cartoon, to a very serious and pervasive problem. People get themselves into relationships all day long for the wrong reasons, while they have a boatload of unhealed brokenness, expecting that it's all going to be ok because they are "in love". "We belong together!"... Continue Reading →
Some basic distinctions of some aspects of helps categories. This chart gives some basic distinctions in terms of the varied purposes of the three categories. In order to be effective in any of these roles, one must first, of course be qualified to do so. Particularly the counselor. The counselor is in a position to... Continue Reading →
I heard last week that Nicholas Sparks is separating from his wife of 25 years. It’s always a terrible thing when anyone’s marriage is on the verge of collapse, but this has to be especially devastating for millions of American women. I mean, Nicholas Sparks can’t get divorced. The man invented romance. Well, maybe he... Continue Reading →
One of the easiest areas to manifest in pursuits of leadership "position" or office, is what would commonly be called "over-zealousness". This indeed can be problematic, but a more destructive description would be "zeal without knowledge." It's like one colleague of mine mentioned to a young counselee who "knew" too much for her own good...... Continue Reading →
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